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About Your Safety – Start By Understanding the Issues

If you are afraid of an intimate partner or spouse, here are the steps needed to gain your safety from danger and/or violence. You begin by first understanding the issues. We at Emmaus House can assist you with that. As a second step we will help you develop a Personal Safety Plan that is tailored to your specific situation.

Safety Issues can be broken down into eleven general areas. You can access each in turn via the green buttons above, or the links below. You can also print the entire list at once, by using the wide "Printer friendly" button above.

Do not be discouraged by the length and complexity of the issues described here. Our intent is to be thorough. When it comes to your specific situation, perhaps many of the items mentioned will not apply. We do, however, invite you to consider them all, as a means of helping you become as safe as possible.

Here are the safety issues. If you print a copy of this material, KEEP IT IN A SAFE PLACE and away from your abusive partner.

  1. Things to consider BEFORE a violent incident occurs

  2. Safety with a Protective/Restraining Order

  3. Safety when PREPARING to LEAVE

  4. Safety at HOME if the batterer leaves, or at your new place

  5. Safety at WORK

  6. Safety in COURT

  7. Safety in PUBLIC PLACES

  8. Safety when a batterer becomes violent or threatening

  9. Determining a batterer's LETHALITY

  10. A CHECKLIST of items you should pack before you leave

  11. Cover your tracks! Consider Internet Safety

Remember, if you print a copy of this material, KEEP IT IN A SAFE PLACE and away from your abusive partner.

Then We Develop a Personal Safety Plan

From the issue items shown above, we at Emmaus House will help you develop a personal Safety Plan, tailored to your specific situation.

A personal Safety Plan is one of the most important steps you can take to protect yourself and your children from a batterer. If you are not ready to leave an abusive relationship it is crucial to plan for your safety to prevent ending up in a dangerous situation and a Safety Plan will help you to be prepared and know what to do to remain safe in case your partner becomes violent again.

Although you do not have control over your partner’s violent behavior, you do have a choice about how to respond to the behavior and keep your family safe. You probably know your partner’s behavior patterns and this knowledge is used to develop your Safety Plan.

If you are planning to leave your batterer, you must carefully plan how and when to leave and stay safe. The risk of violence, including the risk of death, increases when a domestic violence survivor attempts to leave a batterer because the batterer feels a loss of control. You can help yourself, a friend, co-worker, neighbor, or a client plan for safety including survival strategies at home, the workplace, and in court or public places by using the guidelines provided below.

We at Emmaus House will help you develop your personal Safety Plan.